To me, maintaining a good relationship with my daughter is the most important thing to me, so we haven’t told her she can’t do things.We just trust her, and we’re there for her, because as parents, that’s all you can do.Today: I’ve asked Barrett Johnson, the author of the amazing book The Talk(S) (about having continuing talks with your kids), to share about when you should allow your teen to date.

Wednesday: I’m jumping in to talk about how to model a good relationship with your kids. And so today we’re going to ask the question, “when should you allow your teenager to date?

Thursday: I’ll wrap up the series by asking my oldest daughter, who is now 19, to write about why it is that she never rebelled. ” Here’s Barrett Johnson, author of the AMAZING book The Talk(s), guest posting.

I think hearing from my daughters on this one is likely better than hearing from me! I read an early version of his book, which is all about having ongoing talks with your kids as they grow so that you can steer them in the right direction when it comes to relationships.

He explains it so well, and really helps to empower parents!

Every Monday I post a Reader Question and take a stab at answering it.

This week, though, we’re going to do something a little bit different.

We’re going to take a whole week to answer this question: Lately I’ve been noticing a bit of a disturbing trend in some of the comments on older posts.

Whenever I talk about setting limits for teenagers, especially when it comes to dating in high school, someone invariably comments with something like this: The quickest way to make sure a teenager does something is to tell them they can’t.

“If everyone jumped off a cliff, would you do it, too?

” Every parent has used some form of that line before.

I’m not sure it has ever worked to change anyone’s behavior, but we use it anyway.